EXPIRED LOVE .

Had a really thought provoking lecture yesterday about love and marriage for one of my soci mods, where it was said that the act of falling in love is "the process which we fall in love, even knowing that it will fail" - which suggests there will always be a risk and that 'love' alone is not sufficient for a long commitment of relationship, or even marriage. Thus the difficult part of any relationship would be the mutual transition of the fleeting feeling of love into something which one can commit to for a lifetime. 

With that being said, I was thinking about a situation in which when one falls in love with someone. Someone which your peers and everyone else is telling you that it will be an impossible love, a love with an expiry date.

Will you still try and go for this "true love" knowing it will one day fail, or would you listen to the advice of others and give up?

To find out more about how others would they do if they were in this situation, I posted this as a poll on my Instagram story, and 13 of my friends voted that they will go for true love, and only 2 said they will follow the advice of others and just give up on this love that has no returns.


Of course, some of them shared with me their reasons for their choices and I really like such deep thought provoking conversations with a lot of depth and thinking about, which gave me different perspectives to a particular issue.

Many whom voted for going for true love believe in just trying your luck, that you would have no regrets doing what you want (YOLO), that at least you have tried and experienced. One of them said "it's better to have loved and lost rather than never to have loved at all". That spoke to me alot. For me, I feel like one part of me (like the hopeless romantic) would probably still try for true love although I know it will be short lived. For the experiences, even the love for that short time, creating happy memories and having no regrets. But of course, the biggest regrets will only come after it all ends and u know there is no way back - because you really loved the person

Then again, the practical part of me thinks that if I know it's not going have a good end, why would I waste my energy and feelings investing in it and getting myself emotionally hurt? Even if I had tried, it would not have ended well, and I will, too, get hurt in the end.

We know that the end will be here someday, and to just "cherish the present", I'm just too fearful of the end. Knowing there will be an expiry date, it's just even harder to let go, as I would need to stop myself from falling in too deep because when separation comes, it wouldn't be easy.

It hurts. It will hurt. But it's okay. It's nothing. But you would be glad to have even taken the first step to try, despite everything else that is holding you back. Because you loved and you have received loved, it's all that matters.

Someone also said "Fireworks don't last forever" - even for a short time, it was a good time.